Family Helpline - Loving an Addict

My name is Jason Bowman and I am the CEO at Addiction Solutions Victoria. In response to direct feedback from a broad cross-section of people and families challenged by addiction, we have developed an affordable, evidence-based drug and alcohol rehab option delivered in the person's home where they feel safe and their privacy is protected.

To celebrate the possibility of recovery from drugs and alcohol, we have compiled a series of testimonials in the form of blogs written by people who have accessed ASV programs, our aim is to share the hope of positive change with anyone still impacted in a negative manner by addiction.

For more information, please call Jason on 03 8374 7648

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Loving an Addict

Loving an addict is hard work. There’s all the things you hear about – the lying, being let down time and time again and the inevitable stealing but the worse thing of all is knowing that the drug comes first, no matter your history together, no matter the love you share, the drug will always come first.

Ice had become my boyfriend’s mistress and by the time I realised what was going on, her hold on him was far stronger and enduring than the love I thought we shared. The inevitable landslide was spectacular, joint bank accounts drained, his high-paying job gone, long-standing friendships in tatters and family in utter disbelief at the downfall of their son.

After Dean’s first stint in rehab, I really thought that he was cured and that we could resume our happy life pre drugs, but that wasn’t to be. Before long he was lying to me, staying out late, sleeping in and telling me that it was all in my mind, that the problem was my paranoia – not his using.

In absolute desperation, I called Jason at ASV. I could see the train wreck ahead, the bodies on the track and I needed help quickly before it was too late. I was powerless in the face of his hunger for drugs but after talking to Jason the first time I felt that just maybe there was a chance he could help him.

Jason and the family helpline team at ASV worked fast and Dean responded in a way that he hadn’t before, he took the rehab at home program really seriously and for the first time, I saw hope in him, hope that there could be a future without drugs. It’s been a long road of healing and a lot has come out along the way but Dean is now drug-free and for the most part happy. After he completed the rehab at home program he started attending 12 step meetings and he now identifies as a recovering addict.

I realised that I needed help as well and started sessions with Angela, ASV’s family therapist. She has helped me to deal with my anger towards Dean and the grief that came from all of the trauma from Dean’s use. She taught me that Dean is a sick person, not a bad person which has helped me to accept and move towards forgiveness.

Without the expert and compassionate guidance from ASV, I hate to think where Dean would be right now, but I do know that our life together is changed, that drugs no longer dominate and his recovery is now the most important thing to him alongside our life together. Life is so much brighter and I am excited about the future.

"ASV programs and family helpline programs provide affordable, evidence-based drug and alcohol support options across Melbourne, Victoria. The core program is delivered in the persons home where they feel safe and their privacy is protected". - Jase Bowman - ASV CEO AOD & Family Helpline Services, Melbourne 2020.

ASV staff provide programs that are delivered by experienced, qualified industry professionals.

For more information call Jason on 03 8374 7648

Email jason@addictionsolutionsvictoria.org.au

jason@addictionsolutionsgeelong.org.au

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